39.8K
Downloads
112
Episodes
A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking!
The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it.
What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted...
No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at!
I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks.
But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast!
Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive.
If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!
Episodes
Friday Nov 14, 2025
Friday Nov 14, 2025
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Richard Cooper is BACK with his explosive new book The Top Shelf Man and he’s dropping red-pill truth bombs on wealth, women, and why most men fail in relationships. If you loved The Unplugged Alpha, this is the UPGRADE.
Why Wealth is NON-NEGOTIABLE for Men
Money = Options, Power, and Attraction
Women are hypergamous: they want 20-25%+ better than them
A rich man changes a broke woman’s life… but a rich woman won’t touch a broke guy
The Problems that Come When a Woman Out Earns Her Man
When SHE out-earns HIM and he stagnates.
Real story: Mechanic funds wife’s law degree → she divorces him → he dies of a broken heart.
The 4 Male Quadrants Where Do YOU Rank?
70-80% Plugged-In Betas
Escape the “Happy Wife, Happy Life” trap
Entrepreneurship & Recurring Revenue = Freedom
Why MRR (Monthly Recurring Revenue) beats one-off sales
Trades are great… but not scalable like Netflix or SaaS
Green Flags vs Red Flags in Women
Look for: Cheerleader energy, emotional maturity, fitness discipline
Avoid: Dark triad, contempt, “boss babe” masculinity
Hypergamy NEVER Sleeps — Even After Marriage
Burden of performance is on YOU
Nice Guy vs Kind Man: Stop people-pleasing
Use controlled jealousy to keep desire alive
Get The Top Shelf Man NOW on Amazon https://a.co/d/dmaXTgL
Check out Richard Cooper's website www.richcooper.ca
Featured Product: Cup Cozy Pillow – The #1 gift for men & women!
Soft, portable cup holder for drinks, snacks, remotes
https://cupcozypillow.com or on Amazon https://amzn.to/43vglU7
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know.
Click below for details https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Monday Nov 03, 2025
Monday Nov 03, 2025
Law Enforcement Wife’s Heartbreaking Plea: Overworked Cop Husband Works 100+ Hours/Week, No Dates in 5 Years, Intimacy 4X Last Year – Is He Cheating, Depressed, or Addicted? (Viral 1.4M Update Reaction)A desperate police wife begs middle-aged married men for advice after 5 years of women’s tips failed. Her law enforcement husband works MON-FRI 6AM-Midnight, SAT 2PM-Midnight, SUN 8AM-8PM – paying off the house in record time while buying $1,000 tactical watches. She’s lost 40lbs, pays half the bills, texts daily “How can I support you?”, plans Hawaii date nights… but they haven’t had a real date in 5 YEARS. In this raw reaction, a fellow LEO wife breaks down: His insane schedule (1099s prove he’s working… but badge bunnies DM him)
Low-T shots pushed testosterone to 1100+ yet ZERO desire – cortisol burnout or SSRI meds?
She found flirty Instagram DMs from a waitress who QUIT her job to join HIS department
Depression, OCD, porn addiction, or side piece? He admits “It’s me, not you”
Pastor blamed HER weight instead of his absence
She’s praying, staying faithful, raising their daughter alone – is this marriage salvageable? Comment YOUR advice for husbands!
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Sunday Oct 26, 2025
Sunday Oct 26, 2025
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
In this eye-opening video, I break down the harsh reality of sexless marriages—affecting 25-50% of couples, where sex happens 10 times or less per year.
If you're a husband feeling rejected and unloved, or a wife wondering why intimacy has vanished, this is for you. Drawing from real stats, biology, and brutal honesty, I expose the five most common excuses women use to avoid sex with their husbands—and reveal the one true reason behind them all: you're simply not a priority.
Using my trusty whiteboard, we'll dive into:
"I don't have time" – When 20 minutes a week out of 10,080 could reignite your bond.
"I'm too tired or stressed" – Why mental overload is often self-inflicted, and your husband deserves to come first.
"I have no sex drive" – From menopause to motherhood goals, ignoring the fix is selfish—celibacy is your choice, not his.
"It hurts" – Medical issues like dryness or PCOS don't have to end intimacy; alternatives exist if you care enough.
"We just did it" – Overestimating frequency and shaming his desire only deepens the divide.
Men, recognize these red flags to protect your emotional health. Ladies, if sex isn't your husband's love language, you're breaching your vows—prioritize him or set him free. Backed by testosterone facts, research on ideal frequency (once a week for max happiness), and stories from the Dead Bedrooms subreddit.
Struggling in your marriage? Join my free private community of high-quality men unlocking better sex lives and stronger bonds—link in the comments. Subscribe for more no-BS marriage advice, drop your thoughts below, and watch next for tips on closing the libido gap. Your relationship's future depends on it.
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Monday Oct 06, 2025
Monday Oct 06, 2025
In this raw, eye-opening episode, Monica Almaguer dives deep into why modern men are struggling with leadership—and how it's fueling America's 50% divorce rate. It's not about blaming women (who enter marriage with good intentions). It's about owning your role: defensiveness, ignoring her concerns, and weak "frame" that turns attraction into resentment.
Discover:
Why her "silence" is the deadliest signal you'll hear (it's NOT peace—it's goodbye).
The brutal reality: Women endure misery short-term, but chronic emotional stress? They'll bail for sanity's sake.
The unbreakable formula for lifelong desire is also unlocked.
No one taught you this in school, from your parents, or even your wife. But it's not your fault—until now. If you're in a sexless marriage or just want to bulletproof your relationship, this is your wake-up call.
🔥 Ready to master long-term sexual attraction? Enroll in my game-changing course: "How to Create and Maintain Long Term Sexual Attraction." Learn the 6 Pillars of Attraction, polarity dynamics, and tools to thrive for decades—no wife buy-in required!
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Monday Oct 06, 2025
Monday Oct 06, 2025
If you're a husband wondering "how do I get my wife to respect me more," recognize that this question shows real self-awareness—respect is the cornerstone of her ongoing mental and emotional attraction to you. Without it, even the strongest marriages can falter, but the good news is that the bar for improvement is often surprisingly low.
Small, intentional changes in your behavior can shift her perception from seeing you as passive or unreliable to viewing you as the confident, capable leader she deeply desires.
In this video, I dive deep into the top 5 must-have traits that command respect in marriage: being proactive, trustworthy, reliable and consistent, decisive, and capable. Backed by real-world analogies—like the meticulous checklists of airplane pilots and the vigilant oversight of ship captains—I'll explain why most men default to reactive mode, putting out fires instead of preventing them, and how that erodes your wife's admiration. You'll learn practical strategies to break free from the "mother-son" dynamic where she's constantly reminding you of tasks, nagging about responsibilities, or feeling like a single parent running the household alone.
Discover the three levels of proactivity and why aiming for Level 3—turns you into the captain she can truly rely on. Hear my personal story about a frustrating "reminder debate" over a school event that highlighted the pitfalls of expecting your wife to babysit your responsibilities, and how choosing accountability over convenience preserved mutual respect. Plus, explore handling "insubordination" in marriage, from delegating tasks effectively to implementing consequences when needed, all while maintaining leverage as the ultimate authority.
For everyday wins, I'll share game-changing tactics like holding a weekly "fireside chat"—a 30-minute check-in blending positives (what made you feel loved) with constructive concerns (family updates, kids' needs)—to foster open communication without daily drama. This isn't about airing grievances; it's your pilot's checklist for a smoother marital flight.
On trustworthiness, uncover why vague promises like "I'll do it later" chip away at her faith in you, and master time-specific responses (e.g., "I'll handle the trash in 10 minutes") or empowering phrases like "Consider it done" and "I've got it covered" that scream leadership—and yes, they're secretly sexy. Reliability means ditching inconsistency that leaves her guessing your mood; blend it with proactivity for that rare "unicorn" husband vibe she craves for long-term security.
Tackle indecisiveness head-on: Ban "I don't care" or "Whatever you want" from dinner decisions or daily choices—they burden her unnecessarily. Instead, default to quick, firm answers to keep things flowing.
Finally, embrace capability by tackling "man shit" around the house—fixing leaks, changing tires, or stepping up physically—to spark her attraction. Watch the hilarious Modern Family clip where Jay's handyman skills melt hearts, and read a viewer's vacation tale of swapping a camper tire in 17 minutes, leaving his wife utterly turned on by his unflappable competence.
Whether you're dealing with menopause-related intimacy dips, overloaded mental tabs from her endless to-do list, or just want to feel like the strong provider again, these traits will help you avoid disasters, build unbreakable trust, and reignite the passion. No more viewing you as a boy who needs hand-holding—step up, and watch her respect (and desire) soar.
Which of these 5 traits hits home for you—proactivity, trustworthiness, or something else? Share in the comments below: How has lacking one shown up in your relationship, and what's your first step to fix it? If this resonates, smash that like button, subscribe for weekly marriage hacks on husband leadership, wife attraction, and avoiding common pitfalls, and hit the bell for notifications. Your stronger, more respected marriage starts today—let's build it together.
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Tuesday Sep 16, 2025
Tuesday Sep 16, 2025
In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Ben Black, father of four and founder of Dynasty Foundry, to discuss his mission to empower men to build lasting wealth—not just for today, but for generations to come. Ben shares his journey from a self-focused mindset to embracing the responsibility of creating a legacy for his children, emphasizing the importance of human, intellectual, social, and financial capital in establishing a strong family dynasty.
From aligning with his wife as co-CEO of their family to fostering a culture of perpetual creation, Ben breaks down actionable steps for men to shift their mindset and lay a foundation for future generations. He also dives into the concept of a family constitution, the power of rural land, and why real estate and self-sufficiency are key to long-term success. Whether you're a parent, an aspiring patriarch, or simply curious about building a legacy, this conversation is packed with insights to help you think beyond the "me" mentality and create something enduring.
Contact Ben Black Here:
dynastyfoundry.com/XLetters
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Saturday Sep 06, 2025
Saturday Sep 06, 2025
In this eye-opening video, we dive into 5 compelling reasons why men are made to lead in marriage, blending logic, biology, and faith for a balanced perspective. Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship or understand traditional roles better, this discussion equips men to step up as the leaders their wives truly desire.
Key highlights:
Reason 1: Emotional vs. Logical Decision-Making – Explore how women's biology, including hormonal cycles, prioritizes emotions over pure logic, and why this natural difference calls for male leadership to ensure rational choices in the home.
Reason 2: Leading from Fear vs. Strength – Women often operate from a place of anxiety and safety concerns rooted in history and biology. Learn why this mindset can lead to reactive decisions and how men provide the stability needed for proactive family leadership.
Reason 3: Accountability in Leadership – Using real-world examples, we break down the difference between responsibility and accountability, explaining why women tend to avoid the latter and why men must hold the reins for fair outcomes.
Reason 4: Biblical Mandate – Drawing from Ephesians 5:22-24 and other scriptures, discover the Bible's clear guidance on male headship in marriage, including how it models Christ's selfless leadership—and common pitfalls like selective submission.
Reason 5: A woman can't respect a man she can overpower. Power dynamics will affect a woman's sexual attraction.
Backed by personal anecdotes and practical advice, this isn't just theory—it's actionable wisdom for building a thriving marriage. If you're a husband aiming to lead with confidence or a wife seeking clarity on roles, this is for you.
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Friday Sep 05, 2025
Friday Sep 05, 2025
In this thought-provoking video, we explore a real-life dilemma faced by a couple struggling to align on a critical decision: whether to expand their family further. Based on a conversation with a woman on X, we unpack a situation where her husband made a unilateral decision to get a vasectomy behind her back, leading to feelings of deep betrayal. Initially, the couple had agreed on having three children, but as the wife’s religious convictions grew, she felt called to have a larger family, citing Genesis 1:28’s call to “be fruitful and multiply.” Despite her husband’s reluctance, they welcomed a fourth and fifth child, but tensions escalated with the sixth pregnancy, culminating in his secret decision to end the possibility of more children.
We dive into the couple’s flawed conflict resolution system, where either spouse could veto major decisions, and how this approach led to a breakdown in trust. The video examines why the husband’s decision to offer a “no vote” wildcard undermined his role as the leader of the household, creating a de facto female-led marriage. We discuss the broader implications of such dynamics, including why a true 50/50 partnership in marriage is often unsustainable and how hierarchies, seen in institutions like government and business, are essential for a thriving relationship.
Through this story, we address the emotional and spiritual complexities of navigating life-changing decisions, the weight of leadership in marriage, and the consequences of abandoning traditional roles. Join us for an honest discussion about trust, accountability, and why one partner may need to take the lead when consensus can’t be reached. Don’t miss out—like, subscribe, and join our new community for deeper conversations on these topics! Check out the links below for more, including our sponsor, Cup Cozy Pillow, and our free community for the first 100 members.