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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!
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Monday Oct 06, 2025
Monday Oct 06, 2025
In this raw, eye-opening episode, Monica Almaguer dives deep into why modern men are struggling with leadership—and how it's fueling America's 50% divorce rate. It's not about blaming women (who enter marriage with good intentions). It's about owning your role: defensiveness, ignoring her concerns, and weak "frame" that turns attraction into resentment.
Discover:
Why her "silence" is the deadliest signal you'll hear (it's NOT peace—it's goodbye).
The brutal reality: Women endure misery short-term, but chronic emotional stress? They'll bail for sanity's sake.
The unbreakable formula for lifelong desire is also unlocked.
No one taught you this in school, from your parents, or even your wife. But it's not your fault—until now. If you're in a sexless marriage or just want to bulletproof your relationship, this is your wake-up call.
🔥 Ready to master long-term sexual attraction? Enroll in my game-changing course: "How to Create and Maintain Long Term Sexual Attraction." Learn the 6 Pillars of Attraction, polarity dynamics, and tools to thrive for decades—no wife buy-in required!
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
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Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
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Monday Oct 06, 2025
Monday Oct 06, 2025
If you're a husband wondering "how do I get my wife to respect me more," recognize that this question shows real self-awareness—respect is the cornerstone of her ongoing mental and emotional attraction to you. Without it, even the strongest marriages can falter, but the good news is that the bar for improvement is often surprisingly low.
Small, intentional changes in your behavior can shift her perception from seeing you as passive or unreliable to viewing you as the confident, capable leader she deeply desires.
In this video, I dive deep into the top 5 must-have traits that command respect in marriage: being proactive, trustworthy, reliable and consistent, decisive, and capable. Backed by real-world analogies—like the meticulous checklists of airplane pilots and the vigilant oversight of ship captains—I'll explain why most men default to reactive mode, putting out fires instead of preventing them, and how that erodes your wife's admiration. You'll learn practical strategies to break free from the "mother-son" dynamic where she's constantly reminding you of tasks, nagging about responsibilities, or feeling like a single parent running the household alone.
Discover the three levels of proactivity and why aiming for Level 3—turns you into the captain she can truly rely on. Hear my personal story about a frustrating "reminder debate" over a school event that highlighted the pitfalls of expecting your wife to babysit your responsibilities, and how choosing accountability over convenience preserved mutual respect. Plus, explore handling "insubordination" in marriage, from delegating tasks effectively to implementing consequences when needed, all while maintaining leverage as the ultimate authority.
For everyday wins, I'll share game-changing tactics like holding a weekly "fireside chat"—a 30-minute check-in blending positives (what made you feel loved) with constructive concerns (family updates, kids' needs)—to foster open communication without daily drama. This isn't about airing grievances; it's your pilot's checklist for a smoother marital flight.
On trustworthiness, uncover why vague promises like "I'll do it later" chip away at her faith in you, and master time-specific responses (e.g., "I'll handle the trash in 10 minutes") or empowering phrases like "Consider it done" and "I've got it covered" that scream leadership—and yes, they're secretly sexy. Reliability means ditching inconsistency that leaves her guessing your mood; blend it with proactivity for that rare "unicorn" husband vibe she craves for long-term security.
Tackle indecisiveness head-on: Ban "I don't care" or "Whatever you want" from dinner decisions or daily choices—they burden her unnecessarily. Instead, default to quick, firm answers to keep things flowing.
Finally, embrace capability by tackling "man shit" around the house—fixing leaks, changing tires, or stepping up physically—to spark her attraction. Watch the hilarious Modern Family clip where Jay's handyman skills melt hearts, and read a viewer's vacation tale of swapping a camper tire in 17 minutes, leaving his wife utterly turned on by his unflappable competence.
Whether you're dealing with menopause-related intimacy dips, overloaded mental tabs from her endless to-do list, or just want to feel like the strong provider again, these traits will help you avoid disasters, build unbreakable trust, and reignite the passion. No more viewing you as a boy who needs hand-holding—step up, and watch her respect (and desire) soar.
Which of these 5 traits hits home for you—proactivity, trustworthiness, or something else? Share in the comments below: How has lacking one shown up in your relationship, and what's your first step to fix it? If this resonates, smash that like button, subscribe for weekly marriage hacks on husband leadership, wife attraction, and avoiding common pitfalls, and hit the bell for notifications. Your stronger, more respected marriage starts today—let's build it together.
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
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Tuesday Sep 16, 2025
Tuesday Sep 16, 2025
In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Ben Black, father of four and founder of Dynasty Foundry, to discuss his mission to empower men to build lasting wealth—not just for today, but for generations to come. Ben shares his journey from a self-focused mindset to embracing the responsibility of creating a legacy for his children, emphasizing the importance of human, intellectual, social, and financial capital in establishing a strong family dynasty.
From aligning with his wife as co-CEO of their family to fostering a culture of perpetual creation, Ben breaks down actionable steps for men to shift their mindset and lay a foundation for future generations. He also dives into the concept of a family constitution, the power of rural land, and why real estate and self-sufficiency are key to long-term success. Whether you're a parent, an aspiring patriarch, or simply curious about building a legacy, this conversation is packed with insights to help you think beyond the "me" mentality and create something enduring.
Contact Ben Black Here:
dynastyfoundry.com/XLetters
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Saturday Sep 06, 2025
Saturday Sep 06, 2025
In this eye-opening video, we dive into 5 compelling reasons why men are made to lead in marriage, blending logic, biology, and faith for a balanced perspective. Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship or understand traditional roles better, this discussion equips men to step up as the leaders their wives truly desire.
Key highlights:
Reason 1: Emotional vs. Logical Decision-Making – Explore how women's biology, including hormonal cycles, prioritizes emotions over pure logic, and why this natural difference calls for male leadership to ensure rational choices in the home.
Reason 2: Leading from Fear vs. Strength – Women often operate from a place of anxiety and safety concerns rooted in history and biology. Learn why this mindset can lead to reactive decisions and how men provide the stability needed for proactive family leadership.
Reason 3: Accountability in Leadership – Using real-world examples, we break down the difference between responsibility and accountability, explaining why women tend to avoid the latter and why men must hold the reins for fair outcomes.
Reason 4: Biblical Mandate – Drawing from Ephesians 5:22-24 and other scriptures, discover the Bible's clear guidance on male headship in marriage, including how it models Christ's selfless leadership—and common pitfalls like selective submission.
Reason 5: A woman can't respect a man she can overpower. Power dynamics will affect a woman's sexual attraction.
Backed by personal anecdotes and practical advice, this isn't just theory—it's actionable wisdom for building a thriving marriage. If you're a husband aiming to lead with confidence or a wife seeking clarity on roles, this is for you.
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
Benefits such as:
1. Early access to videos
2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Socials:
https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica
Friday Sep 05, 2025
Friday Sep 05, 2025
In this thought-provoking video, we explore a real-life dilemma faced by a couple struggling to align on a critical decision: whether to expand their family further. Based on a conversation with a woman on X, we unpack a situation where her husband made a unilateral decision to get a vasectomy behind her back, leading to feelings of deep betrayal. Initially, the couple had agreed on having three children, but as the wife’s religious convictions grew, she felt called to have a larger family, citing Genesis 1:28’s call to “be fruitful and multiply.” Despite her husband’s reluctance, they welcomed a fourth and fifth child, but tensions escalated with the sixth pregnancy, culminating in his secret decision to end the possibility of more children.
We dive into the couple’s flawed conflict resolution system, where either spouse could veto major decisions, and how this approach led to a breakdown in trust. The video examines why the husband’s decision to offer a “no vote” wildcard undermined his role as the leader of the household, creating a de facto female-led marriage. We discuss the broader implications of such dynamics, including why a true 50/50 partnership in marriage is often unsustainable and how hierarchies, seen in institutions like government and business, are essential for a thriving relationship.
Through this story, we address the emotional and spiritual complexities of navigating life-changing decisions, the weight of leadership in marriage, and the consequences of abandoning traditional roles. Join us for an honest discussion about trust, accountability, and why one partner may need to take the lead when consensus can’t be reached. Don’t miss out—like, subscribe, and join our new community for deeper conversations on these topics! Check out the links below for more, including our sponsor, Cup Cozy Pillow, and our free community for the first 100 members.
Sunday Aug 24, 2025
Sunday Aug 24, 2025
Discover the secrets behind how women subconsciously assess a man's masculinity and how you can rank higher in their eyes to boost attraction. In this in-depth video, we break down the key factors that women prioritize when evaluating men, from the critical importance of personal hygiene to the impact of facial features, grooming habits, and body composition. Learn why your scent is the number one dealbreaker, how a strong jawline and a confident smile can elevate your appeal, and why certain grooming choices can make or break her attraction to you.
In this video, you'll uncover: The surprising reason why smelling good (or at least not bad) is the top priority for women and how it affects long-term attraction.
How facial features, like a defined jawline and well-groomed facial hair, play a pivotal role in perceived masculinity.
Why your face often matters more than your body when it comes to initial attraction, and how to enhance your facial aesthetics.
The truth about body types: why clinical obesity or being overly skinny can hurt your appeal, and what body types women find most attractive.
Practical grooming tips, from dental care to managing body hair, to ensure women enjoy being close to you.
Psychological strategies, like subtle jealousy tactics, to maintain attraction in long-term relationships.
Insights into why women may overlook certain flaws but how addressing them can significantly increase her attraction.
This video is a must-watch for any man looking to understand what women value in terms of masculinity and how to present the best version of themselves. For those ready to take their attraction game to the next level, check out my comprehensive course, How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction, linked below for exclusive tips and strategies not covered in this video.
Links Mentioned: Full Course on Long-Term Attraction: https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
Video on Obesity and Attraction: https://youtu.be/hmeGFN5TwLo
Video on 7 Signs She’s Into You: https://youtu.be/vNn_UfMoqXA
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73
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2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health
3. Ability to ask Questions Directly
Contact Monica:
Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know.
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https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
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Tuesday Aug 12, 2025
Tuesday Aug 12, 2025
In this thought-provoking video, we explore the hidden reasons why modern marriages are struggling, both in the bedroom and beyond. The core issue? For women ages 20-49 it's most likely due from the overwhelming mental load that women carry while trying to "have it all."
From balancing demanding careers and motherhood to maintaining relationships and navigating societal pressures, women are stretched thin, leading to stress, high cortisol, and strained intimacy. We break down the concept of mental load — the constant mental juggling of responsibilities, tasks, and micro-tasks that women manage daily, like a computer with countless open tabs that never truly close.
Key points discussed: The Myth of "Having It All": Why women are told they can juggle careers, family, and social lives, but the reality of finite time creates a hyper-stressed, hyper-masculinized state.
Work and Financial Independence: How women’s desire for financial security and personal fulfillment through work can shift family priorities, sometimes leading to financial division or resentment.
Motherhood’s Impact: The activation of "mom mode" and how it biologically wires women to prioritize children, often at the expense of intimacy and personal well-being.
Social Media’s Role: How curated highlight reels on social platforms distort perceptions of a "normal" life, fueling unrealistic expectations and self-induced pressure.
Practical Insights: Understanding the toll of mental load on relationships and why phrases like "I’m too tired" or "I don’t have time" reflect genuine exhaustion, not excuses.
This video is a must-watch for anyone seeking to understand the challenges of modern relationships and how to navigate them with empathy and awareness. Whether you’re a spouse, partner, or simply curious about the dynamics of marriage today, this discussion offers valuable insights into fostering healthier connections.
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Interested in Coaching? Send me an email at MonicaAlmaguerCoaching@gmail.com.
Have a Question? Send us an email to ChilatMedia@gmail.com and We May Just Answer it in one of our videos!
How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/sltacoursebundle
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Friday Aug 01, 2025