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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!
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Tuesday Jan 06, 2026
Tuesday Jan 06, 2026
Are you a married woman struggling with low libido, a fading sex life, or feeling like the passion has died in your marriage? Or a husband searching for answers to a dead bedroom? This video flips the script on who's really responsible for keeping things HOT.
Society constantly tells men what they MUST do to "earn" sex – stay attractive, build emotional connection, be a great dad, handle chores, and more. But what about a wife's responsibilities? Is her sexual desire 100% on him... or is it time to own your part?
Monica reveals the hard truth: It's NOT your husband's job to turn you on – it's YOURS. Female desire is often responsive (not spontaneous), and as a wife, you have duties and obligations in marriage – including showing up sexually with generosity and enthusiasm. This isn't about duty sex or force – it's about choosing to cultivate your own libido for a thriving marriage (and your own pleasure!).Discover the 6 key responsibilities every married woman has to keep her sex life vibrant:Know what turns you on (and communicate it – no faking!)
Embrace your sexuality (even after kids or menopause)
Address hang-ups (body image, past trauma, hormones)
Show up fully when you say yes (no resentment or starfishing)
Be open to exploration (escape vanilla boredom)
Initiate occasionally (make him feel wanted)
Men: Stop believing the lie that it's all on you. Attraction and technique help, but her mindset is the real game-changer.Shift from autopilot moods to intentional sexual generosity – it will transform your marriage beyond imagination. Perfect for wives dealing with low desire, post-baby changes, or long-term ruts. Husbands, share this!
Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Is Her Low Libido Really All on Him?
01:45 – The Lie We've All Been Told About Female Desire
04:20 – Why "Duty" Doesn't Kill Passion (And Backlash Explained)
07:10 – Responsive Desire: Like Going to the Gym for Intimacy
10:30 – The 6 Responsibilities for Wives
11:00 – #1: Know What Turns You On
13:20 – #2: Embrace Your Sexuality
15:40 – #3: Address Your Hang-Ups
17:50 – #4: Show Up Fully
19:30 – #5: Be Open to Exploration
21:10 – #6: Initiate Occasionally
23:45 – Final Thought: Own Your Mood, Ignite Your Marriage
If you're ready to revive passion, stop blaming, and take control of your sex life – watch now! Drop a comment: What's YOUR biggest bedroom challenge? Subscribe for more real talk on marriage, intimacy, and dead bedroom fixes.
Like if this resonated – share with your spouse!
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How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
Monday Dec 29, 2025
Monday Dec 29, 2025
After divorce, job loss, or any life-shattering event, many men feel lost and struggle to rediscover their identity and purpose. In this in-depth interview, five-time author Ralph Brewer shares insights from his new book "Rebuild: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man."
Ralph draws from his own experience of infidelity, sudden single fatherhood, and rebuilding from scratch, plus thousands of coaching sessions and community discussions with men in similar situations. He explains why most men only begin rebuilding after a "holy shit moment" – like divorce, layoffs, or the slow realization of an unfulfilling life – and how avoiding that work earlier leads to repeated pain.
Key topics covered:
Why men often lose themselves by orbiting around their wives and saying "yes dear" to everything.
The dangers of "Nice Guy" behavior and covert contracts that breed resentment.
How neediness repels partners and why self-validation is essential
The seven pillars of rebuilding: a practical blueprint for identity, mission, values, habits, and boundaries
Common mistakes in dating and vetting partners, including ignoring red flags due to scarcity mindset
Taking full ownership of your life instead of falling into victimhood
Practical tools like journaling, structured routines, and setting clear boundaries.
Ralph Brewer's Resources:
Buy ReBuild on Amazon: https://a.co/d/jl9UQHk
Helpformen.com
Learn more at readrebuild.com.
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How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
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Sunday Dec 07, 2025
Wednesday Dec 03, 2025
Wednesday Dec 03, 2025
With divorce rates hovering around 50% and women initiating 70-80% of them, many men are left wondering if marriage is even worth it in today’s world. While it’s easy to blame modern women, the legal system, or the institution itself, the truth is far more uncomfortable: most marriages don’t fail because of one person alone. Men play a massive role in their own marital downfall — often through repeated, predictable mistakes that could have been avoided.
In this video, Monica from The Feminine Lane breaks down the five most common mistakes men make that dramatically increase the chances of divorce, based on years of coaching thousands of men and analyzing patterns from real marriages.
You’ll discover:
Why rushing past the honeymoon phase without proper vetting sets you up for disaster (and how long you actually need to see her true colors)
The critical expectations and standards most men never voice until it’s too late — especially around sex, leadership, and household roles
How abandoning masculine leadership turns attraction into resentment (and why there always has to be a captain of the ship)
The avoidance of conflict that men mistake for “keeping the peace” — and how it actually piles unbearable weight onto your wife
Why skipping a prenup is one of the biggest red-flag tests you can give a woman (and the shocking reactions that reveal her real intentions)
This isn’t about bashing women or declaring marriage dead. It’s about giving men an unfair advantage: the exact patterns that destroy marriages so you can reverse-engineer them, fix what’s fixable, and build a relationship with far better odds of lasting a lifetime.
If you’re dating, engaged, or already married and want to protect your future, this video is a must-watch. Thousands of men have used these insights to course-correct and create stronger, happier marriages.
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How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c
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Timestamps:
0:00 – Why Men Are Asking “Is Marriage Even Worth It?”
2:45 – The Real Reason Marriages Fail (It’s Not Just Her)
6:12 – Mistake #1: Improper Vetting (The Honeymoon Trap)
14:28 – Mistake #2: Never Laying Out Expectations Upfront
22:19 – Mistake #3: Forgetting to Lead (There Can Only Be One Captain)
29:55 – Mistake #4: Avoiding Problems Like the Plague
36:40 – Mistake #5: Not Getting a Prenup (The Ultimate Litmus Test)
44:18 – Final Thoughts: Marriage Isn’t Broken — How We Do It Is
Friday Nov 21, 2025
Friday Nov 21, 2025
Wife Says No to Sex? What Married Men Should Actually Do When Rejected (Pragmatic Advice for Real Marriages)
Every married man gets turned down for sex eventually — whether you have a high-sex marriage or you’re already in a low-sex or sexless one. The real question is: what should you do in that moment without building resentment, losing your masculine frame, or letting her libido permanently control yours?
In this video, Monica breaks down the only two realistic options when your wife says “no” (do nothing/transmute the energy OR take care of yourself), why society pushes the first option as the only “moral” choice, and why that narrative keeps men stuck in a female-led sexual frame.
You’ll learn: The exact “order of operations” that keeps you in your masculine frame
Why masturbation in marriage is NOT automatically cheating or a betrayal
The real risks and benefits of solo release (with and without using adult online entertainment) backed by data.
How frequent ejaculation actually lowers prostate cancer risk and improves mood
Why seeking permission or hiding it destroys your frame (and transparency fixes it)
How being upfront about handling your own needs often motivates her to say yes more often
Why constant rejection without an outlet creates resentment and dead bedrooms
This is not religious shaming and not dead-bedroom recovery (different topic). This is pragmatic, common-sense advice for the majority of marriages where desire mismatch is normal and the man is expected to “just deal with it” forever.
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How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
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Friday Nov 14, 2025
Friday Nov 14, 2025
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Richard Cooper is BACK with his explosive new book The Top Shelf Man and he’s dropping red-pill truth bombs on wealth, women, and why most men fail in relationships. If you loved The Unplugged Alpha, this is the UPGRADE.
Why Wealth is NON-NEGOTIABLE for Men
Money = Options, Power, and Attraction
Women are hypergamous: they want 20-25%+ better than them
A rich man changes a broke woman’s life… but a rich woman won’t touch a broke guy
The Problems that Come When a Woman Out Earns Her Man
When SHE out-earns HIM and he stagnates.
Real story: Mechanic funds wife’s law degree → she divorces him → he dies of a broken heart.
The 4 Male Quadrants Where Do YOU Rank?
70-80% Plugged-In Betas
Escape the “Happy Wife, Happy Life” trap
Entrepreneurship & Recurring Revenue = Freedom
Why MRR (Monthly Recurring Revenue) beats one-off sales
Trades are great… but not scalable like Netflix or SaaS
Green Flags vs Red Flags in Women
Look for: Cheerleader energy, emotional maturity, fitness discipline
Avoid: Dark triad, contempt, “boss babe” masculinity
Hypergamy NEVER Sleeps — Even After Marriage
Burden of performance is on YOU
Nice Guy vs Kind Man: Stop people-pleasing
Use controlled jealousy to keep desire alive
Get The Top Shelf Man NOW on Amazon https://a.co/d/dmaXTgL
Check out Richard Cooper's website www.richcooper.ca
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Monday Nov 03, 2025
Monday Nov 03, 2025
Law Enforcement Wife’s Heartbreaking Plea: Overworked Cop Husband Works 100+ Hours/Week, No Dates in 5 Years, Intimacy 4X Last Year – Is He Cheating, Depressed, or Addicted? (Viral 1.4M Update Reaction)A desperate police wife begs middle-aged married men for advice after 5 years of women’s tips failed. Her law enforcement husband works MON-FRI 6AM-Midnight, SAT 2PM-Midnight, SUN 8AM-8PM – paying off the house in record time while buying $1,000 tactical watches. She’s lost 40lbs, pays half the bills, texts daily “How can I support you?”, plans Hawaii date nights… but they haven’t had a real date in 5 YEARS. In this raw reaction, a fellow LEO wife breaks down: His insane schedule (1099s prove he’s working… but badge bunnies DM him)
Low-T shots pushed testosterone to 1100+ yet ZERO desire – cortisol burnout or SSRI meds?
She found flirty Instagram DMs from a waitress who QUIT her job to join HIS department
Depression, OCD, porn addiction, or side piece? He admits “It’s me, not you”
Pastor blamed HER weight instead of his absence
She’s praying, staying faithful, raising their daughter alone – is this marriage salvageable? Comment YOUR advice for husbands!
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How to Create and Maintain Long-Term Sexual Attraction Course: Learn the six pillars of attraction, how women tick, and how to reignite your marriage—without her even needing to know. Click below for details
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Sunday Oct 26, 2025
Sunday Oct 26, 2025
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In this eye-opening video, I break down the harsh reality of sexless marriages—affecting 25-50% of couples, where sex happens 10 times or less per year.
If you're a husband feeling rejected and unloved, or a wife wondering why intimacy has vanished, this is for you. Drawing from real stats, biology, and brutal honesty, I expose the five most common excuses women use to avoid sex with their husbands—and reveal the one true reason behind them all: you're simply not a priority.
Using my trusty whiteboard, we'll dive into:
"I don't have time" – When 20 minutes a week out of 10,080 could reignite your bond.
"I'm too tired or stressed" – Why mental overload is often self-inflicted, and your husband deserves to come first.
"I have no sex drive" – From menopause to motherhood goals, ignoring the fix is selfish—celibacy is your choice, not his.
"It hurts" – Medical issues like dryness or PCOS don't have to end intimacy; alternatives exist if you care enough.
"We just did it" – Overestimating frequency and shaming his desire only deepens the divide.
Men, recognize these red flags to protect your emotional health. Ladies, if sex isn't your husband's love language, you're breaching your vows—prioritize him or set him free. Backed by testosterone facts, research on ideal frequency (once a week for max happiness), and stories from the Dead Bedrooms subreddit.
Struggling in your marriage? Join my free private community of high-quality men unlocking better sex lives and stronger bonds—link in the comments. Subscribe for more no-BS marriage advice, drop your thoughts below, and watch next for tips on closing the libido gap. Your relationship's future depends on it.
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