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A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifics. Tell me exactly what to do! but there was nothing out there, so I created my own tips, tools and tricks. But the question I’m sure you are all wondering is...Did it work? And to that, I would say. YES! Not only did my techniques work... they also worked fast! Now I am taking my journey, those lessons, and am here to help marriages and relationships, not only survive, but to thrive. If you are married, ever wanted to be, or just want the absolutely best relationship possible. This is the podcast for you!
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11 hours ago
11 hours ago
Join Monica Almaguer in this eye-opening interview with Lauren Ponce, the viral relationship expert who blew up on social media with her raw truths on masculine-feminine dynamics, polarity, and building unbreakable attraction in marriage. Lauren shares her incredible transformation from 275 pounds to bikini competitor, how her coach became her husband, and the "controversial" marriage rules that keep their relationship passionate and balanced – including submission, respect, boundaries, and avoiding sexless marriages.
Discover why 95% of their audiences are men, the real reasons behind women's resistance to accountability, and practical tips for men to stay attractive, lead with confidence, and reignite the spark. They dive deep into hormones, menopause, dead bedrooms, infidelity recovery, and how to keep sex exciting for decades – from dancing lessons to embracing dominance in the bedroom. Plus, advice on communication, emotional maturity, and healing trauma for healthier relationships.
If you're in a long-term relationship or marriage struggling with attraction, polarity, or intimacy, this episode is packed with actionable relationship advice to create a hot, fulfilling partnership. Don't miss Lauren's insights on why compatibility matters, the dangers of silence in marriage, and her upcoming courses, books, and podcast.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro & Lauren's Viral Rise
02:30 - Weight Loss Journey & Meeting Her Husband
05:45 - Shifting to Relationship Content
08:20 - Sexless Marriages & Male Audience Insights
12:10 - Women's Accountability & Trauma
15:40 - Marriage Rules: Submission, Respect, Boundaries
20:00 - Daily Life, Polarity, & Avoiding Boredom
25:15 - Keeping Attraction Alive: Gym, Hormones, Style
30:00 - Humor, Dancing, & Emotional Connection
35:00 - Consulting Themes: Roommates, Infidelity, Spark
40:00 - When to Have Hard Conversations
45:00 - Menopause, Hormones, & Libido Gaps
50:00 - Conflict Resolution & Love Languages
55:00 - Importance of Sex & Novelty in the Bedroom
1:00:00 - Porn, Transparency, & Control in Relationships
1:05:00 - Where to Find Lauren & Closing
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Wednesday Feb 11, 2026
Wednesday Feb 11, 2026
Buckle up—this conversation might just change how you read your Bible forever.
Monica Almaguer sits down with Bible scholar and sex educator Dr. Kevin Jenson, author of Sacred Not Sinful: A New Christian Sexual Ethic, for a raw, eye-opening deep dive into topics most churches won't touch: premarital sex, lust, masturbation, pornography, dead bedrooms, and the true meaning of biblical sexual ethics.
What if many of the "rules" you grew up with aren't actually in the Bible? Dr. Jenson unpacks the original Greek and Hebrew words that have been mistranslated or misunderstood for centuries:
Lust (epithumeia) — It's not just sexual desire; it's an overpowering, life-orienting desire to possess someone. Jesus wasn't banning arousal—He was warning against letting desire rule you.
Adultery — In biblical context, this was largely about property law and violating another man's "possession," not a blanket ban on all sex outside marriage.
Porneia (often translated "fornication" or "sexual immorality") — Far from meaning "premarital sex," its root is tied to "selling out" one's faithfulness—often to idols, money, or systems—instead of God. The modern idea of "sex outside marriage = sin" evolved much later through church tradition, not the original texts.
Together they explore:
Why purity culture creates impossible double standards, especially for young men flooded with testosterone.
How repressing sexual desire for decades doesn't flip a switch on your wedding night.
Why women often struggle more to embrace sexuality after years of "sex is bad until marriage" messaging.
Masturbation, pornography, and dead bedrooms: When might self-pleasure actually be the more loving, ethical choice?
The radical progression in Scripture toward mutual authority in marriage (1 Corinthians 7) and elevating women's status.
How shame, control, and lack of education turn God's gift of sexuality into a source of pain.
This isn't about liberal vs. conservative—it's about returning to what the Bible actually says, in its historical and linguistic context, and asking: How can sexuality become sacred, not sinful?
If you've ever felt shame, confusion, or frustration about faith and sexuality, this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned:
Get Dr. Kevin Jenson's book Sacred Not Sinful: A New Christian Sexual Ethic → https://sacrednotsinful.com/book (print, ebook, audiobook available; pay-what-you-can option)
Follow Dr. Jenson's YouTube channel for in-depth Bible studies (including the One Flesh series on lust, adultery, porneia & more) → https://www.youtube.com/@drkevinjenson
Website: https://sacrednotsinful.com / https://www.drkevinjenson.com
Drop your biggest takeaway or question in the comments—let's keep the conversation going!
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Saturday Feb 07, 2026
Saturday Feb 07, 2026
Is your sex life “technically” okay (1-3 times a week) but it still feels… off?
Your wife says yes, but you can tell she’s not really into it. No real hunger, no enthusiasm, just “being a good wife.” You’re not crazy — and your marriage isn’t doomed. This is one of the most common complaints I hear from
husbands right now.
In this video I break down the 5 real reasons your wife’s sexual enthusiasm is low — and exactly what you can do about each one:
The massive testosterone gap (why biology is NOT on your side)
The season of life you’re in (kids, stress, menopause)
Why she doesn’t see herself as a sexual person
The hidden judgment that kills her desire
How to make sex with you the easiest, hottest choice she can make
This isn’t generic relationship advice. It’s straight talk on hormones, the honeymoon phase, purity culture damage, polarity, and how to actually awaken her wild side — without pressure, guilt, or begging.
If you’re tired of feeling like you’re the only one who wants great sex in your marriage, watch this. Your wife’s low desire is NOT a reflection of how much she loves you — but it CAN be changed.
Timestamps:
00:00 The “decent but dead” sex problem
02:40 #1 – The Fact She Is Female (Testosterone explained)
11:15 Why the honeymoon phase fooled you
15:50 #2 – Your Current Relationship Season (kids vs menopause)
21:00 #3 – She Doesn’t See Herself as Sexual
26:40 #4 – The Judgment Trap (and why she fakes it)
32:20 #5 – Make Sex With You EASY (looks, environment, polarity)
39:00 Final advice + what she has to choose for herselfDrop your biggest struggle in the comments — I read every one.
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Saturday Jan 31, 2026
Saturday Jan 31, 2026
In this raw, no-BS conversation, male performance coach Mike Sartain (founder of Men of Action) joins the show to break down why so many men become complacent after marriage—and how to reverse it before it's too late. We dive deep into:
Why men's testosterone levels plummet in marriage (and skyrocket after divorce) — and why TRT (testosterone replacement therapy) after age 35 could save more marriages than counseling ever will.
The evolutionary truth about leadership, boundaries, and frame: Doing everything your wife asks doesn't earn loyalty—it breeds resentment and cheating. Learn why presenting a unified front in public, enforcing real boundaries (no other men touching her intimately, no public disrespect), and refusing baseless accusations is essential.
Modern dating disasters: Smartphones + TikTok/Instagram addiction (especially post-1995 generation), dating apps, porn, and the disappearance of attractive women in nightlife have ruined the game. Women swipe away anything that doesn't spark instant dopamine—don't let that mindset enter your marriage.
Why "nice guy" tendencies kill attraction: Avoiding confrontation creates bigger conflict. Lead decisively (e.g., "We're going to Toko Madera at 9 PM—be ready"), handle emotional tests calmly, and stop apologizing for other women finding you attractive (preselection works!).
The double standard no one talks about: What turns men on (physical attraction) vs. what turns women on (status, leadership, respect). Good advice gets labeled "toxic" because it works—pandering gurus (Chris GQ Perry, etc.) just sell lies.
Practical fixes: Get on TRT if needed (aim 700-900 ng/dL), lift heavy, stay lean (bench your bodyweight or risk divorce), have frequent sex (it's the glue), and support her glow-up while maintaining your edge. Obesity and low T are the real marriage killers—not "energy" or "vibes."
If you're a married man feeling the spark fade, getting fat, passive, or disrespected—this is the wake-up call. Mike's military-style, technique-driven approach (inspired by Jocko/David Goggins but applied to dating & relationships) has helped thousands of high-achieving men reclaim their masculinity.
Timestamps for key sections:0:00 – Intro & Mike's background (Military, Men of Action, high-status networking)
3:45 – Why men enter through "dating" but need leadership most
7:20 – Modern dating market destruction (social media, apps, smartphones since puberty)
12:10 – Testosterone drop in marriage + TRT as marriage saver
18:50 – Boundaries that actually work (no public disrespect, unified front, no baseless accusations)
25:40 – Leading decisively vs. endless "what do you want?" questions
32:15 – Respect for men = quelling rage & no sarcasm/attacks
38:00 – Pandering gurus vs. real evolutionary advice (why good advice gets called toxic)
45:30 – Preselection: Let other women find you attractive—it's good for her libido too
52:10 – Get in shape together: Sex & attraction cure most problems (challenge to marriage counselors!)
1:00:00 – TRT details, Ozempic realities, & final advice for married men
Check out Mike Sartain's Men of Action program for more: https://www.moamentoring.com
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Thursday Jan 29, 2026
Monday Jan 19, 2026
Monday Jan 19, 2026
Un this video I explain WHY playful, light-hearted energy is one of the strongest long-term drivers of a woman’s sexual attraction — and EXACTLY how men can bring more fun into everyday life to keep desire alive.
If you’re a man who wants a deeper, lasting connection (not just short-term hookups), this video breaks down the psychology of mental attraction vs. physical attraction, why frequency of fun matters more than one big weekly date night, and 5 practical strategies you can start using today to become the source of joy in your relationship.
What you’ll get from this video:
A clear framework for balancing stability (gentleman mode) with playful unpredictability (beast mode)
Practical, low-effort daily actions that increase mental attraction and sexual desire
Examples and scripts for playful moments you can use tonight
Guidance for men with young kids on how to inject fun without added stress.
Who this is for:
Married men wanting to restore or deepen sexual attraction
Men in long-term relationships aiming to prevent boredom and stagnation
Partners who already do “the chores” but want more spark and intimacy
Men curious about emotional and psychological drivers of desire
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro — Why “fun” matters more than you think
1:05 My story — How Michael’s playful laugh hooked me in the dental chair
3:20 Mental vs. physical attraction — What keeps her attracted long-term
6:10 Why frequency of fun beats one big date night
8:00 The danger of predictable relationships (and “to-do” date nights)
10:00 5 Simple Ways to Drive Her Sexual Desire by Having More Fun
10:20 Tip 1 — Make things competitive (grocery races, folding contests)
11:50 Tip 2 — Get physical (playful wrestling, piggyback rides, scoop-to-bed)
13:30 Tip 3 — Add music (dance while doing chores, sing-alongs)
14:40 Tip 4 — Do something a little “shady” (harmless spontaneity & memories)
16:10 Tip 5 — Increase unpredictability (different routes, surprise kisses, bold style)
18:00 How to ramp up “beast mode” slowly — balance with gentleman mode
19:40 Q&A + common objections (date nights, kids, burnout)
22:00 Wrap-up & next steps
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Monday Jan 12, 2026
Monday Jan 12, 2026
Red Pill philosophy has provided millions of men with eye-opening truths about attraction, dating, and gender dynamics by rejecting mainstream romantic ideals like "just be yourself" and "true love conquers all." However, as a woman deeply familiar with the Red Pill community, I believe several widely repeated ideas are overstated, incomplete, or entirely incorrect when applied to real-world relationships.
In this video, I break down four of the most popular Red Pill concepts that often mislead men about women's nature, long-term relationships, and marriage.
This discussion offers a balanced, pragmatic perspective — combining Red Pill realism with deeper contextual understanding (think Red Pill philosophy blended with timeless biblical wisdom) — to help men better navigate relationships without falling into extremes or cynicism.
Key topics covered:
Why "genuine burning desire" alone does not explain every case of declining female libido in marriage
How hypergamy is not exclusively a female trait — men exhibit their own version focused on different priorities
The myth that a man must be 6 feet tall to succeed in dating, and why dating apps create a distorted reality
Why dismissing marriage as too risky ignores its profound benefits for men, women, children, and society
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction: The importance of understanding women's nature in modern relationships
1:45 - Origins of the Red Pill concept from The Matrix and its application to dating
3:20 - My personal philosophy: Red Pill realism combined with biblical principles
5:10 - Myth #1: Genuine Burning Desire Is Everything (Why low libido is multifaceted — hormones, motherhood, medications, affection, trauma, and more)
9:45 - Key questions to diagnose the real root causes of desire changes in marriage
14:30 - Myth #2: Hypergamy Is Exclusively a Female Trait (Both genders seek higher value — women in multifaceted ways, men often prioritizing youth, beauty, and femininity)
19:15 - Myth #3: You Must Be 6 Feet Tall or You're Doomed (Dating app filters vs. real-life success — average U.S. male height is approximately 5'9", and confidence, charisma, and connection matter far more)
24:00 - Myth #4: Marriage Isn't Worth It / Too Risky for Men (Examining the alternatives — plate spinning, opting out — and why committed marriage remains the best path for deep intimacy, family stability, and raising children)
29:45 - Conclusion: Moving beyond fear-based advice toward practical skills, risk mitigation, and embracing the human need for deep connection
If you are a man currently in a relationship or hoping to build one, this video provides essential context to avoid common pitfalls while appreciating the valuable truths the Red Pill community does get right.
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